How To Make The Most Of The Last Year Of Your Twenties

Hey Guys!

As I’m writing this, I have THREE DAYS until I hit twenty-nine years old, and then I will have one year left until I’m thirty.  WHERE. THE FUCK. DID THAT GO?

It’s weird. I don’t feel any older at all physically. Mentally, I feel wiser – I do every year. But do I feel older? Not really.

Wisdom definitely comes through experience. In this last year, Rose and I had to make some tough business decisions. I was once optimistic and naive, and although I’m still optimistic, the naivety is long gone. I feel I can see through people now, and as Ariana Grande puts it, I’m real protective of my soul. I’m not prepared to be fucked around anymore.

From a young age, I was obsessed with my twenties. ALL I wanted to do was be Elle Woods from Legally Blonde. I couldn’t wait to be done with school, I just wanted to have a successful career, have my own apartment and to spend my well earned money on shoes, clothes, partying and blonde highlights. I couldn’t wait to have a proper job because I wanted the independence that came with it. Being in control of what you buy, what you eat, what you do, where you go.

Reflecting on what I actually did in my twenties is insane. It’s crazy where life will take you, and it’s so true, you can never plan it, life always has other plans. I met the love of my life, and Rose likes to point out that I spent almost all of my twenties with her by my side. We got engaged, we bought our dresses in New York and we got married in a castle.  Our careers took off together, and thanks to YOU guys, the people who enjoy watching our content, we quit our jobs and put all our passion and energy into YouTube. We flew to Singapore to interview Tom Hanks (my proudest career moment to date) we WROTE A BOOK (another huge moment for me) we saved and we saved and we saved and we saved until we bought our first home. I often don’t give myself enough credit for these milestones, but seeing as I’m having a reflective moment… yeah. I’m pretty proud There was a long period of time where Rose and I didn’t have a single weekend off work. We hustled HARD and hard work always ALWAYS pays off!

Now we’re moving into a new period of our lives. We’re planning to become parents. I was adamant that I wanted to wait till I was “at least thirty” to have a baby. I wanted to make sure to enjoy every moment of my twenties before our lives would change dramatically forever. And looking back, I feel I’ve done that!

So before our lives change forever. Before I move into a new decade, a new period of life and before I become a parent, here is what I want to do, to make the most out of my final year of being twenty.

Be Present and Make Every Moment Count

I’m getting much better at this one. I’m always so busy, mentally as well as physically, busy in my head thinking of the next thing that needs doing or that I want to do, that I don’t always slow down, and think about what’s going on RIGHT NOW. But I have been working on it. When things are going good, it’s nice to take a deep breath in, look around you and feel grateful for what you have. I try to savour the good moments. Even small ones. They will be memories you will look back on and cherish one day.

Feel Confident In Your Own Skin

This comes with time. When you’ve lived in your body long enough, you come to know your biggest flaws but also your greatest strengths. You get used to things. Here’s a fantastic bit of advice I was told; when people look at you, they look at you as a WHOLE. They subconsciously take everything in. They aren’t staring at that one pimple you are worried about. People are so self-conscious of themselves, but I bet you don’t examine other people with as much scrutiny as you examine yourself. Whatever you look like, there is something about you that someone else is WISHING they had. Is it your amazing eyebrows? Do you always have something funny to say? There is only ONE you in this world, so you have to OWN IT. The world is made up of so many diverse, different people, and every one of them is special.

Set Goals and Strive to Achieve Them!

You know me – I’m a goal setter! There is literally no better feeling than setting out to achieve something and ACTUALLY ACHIEVING IT.  So go ahead and sort that thing that needs to be sorted. Is it learning to cook? Staying on top of your nutrition? What is that thing you always say you will do/start but don’t? Is it saving up for something, getting up earlier, starting a new life habit? Whatever it is, stop talking about it and GET IT DONE!

Be a Good Partner/Parent/Sibling/Friend

Putting effort into your friendships and relationships is so rewarding. I try to make time daily to check in on the people I love. Make the most of your precious relationships while you have them. It feels good to be there for someone, to help someone. It’s good for the soul to be selfless. You’ll grow relationships that are so strong they stand the test of time.

Take Pride In What You Have

Don’t get me wrong – material possessions aren’t everything. I’ve actually really gotten into my minimalism lately – getting rid of useless excess and focussing on only what you truly do need to simplify your life. However. You should take great care and pride in what you DO have – be that tangible or not. Have you bought something you worked hard for and saved up for? Enjoy it. Feel confident in what you have. Are you fantastic at starting new habits? Are you a good listener, someone people go to for advice? Is there something you’re good at? Own it. Wear it with pride.  Make the most of what you have.

Own Your Mistakes

Nobody is perfect. We ALL fuck up sometimes. That’s ok! There is literally not one person on earth who hasn’t slipped up or made a mistake at some point. And if we learn from it? Even better. Let loose. It’s ok to be a mess sometimes.  

And finally…

Fuck The Haters

Whatever you do, there will always be naysayers. But life is too damn short to worry about other people. Other people’s problems are THEIR problems. Psychologists say that people who are overly critical of other people usually do so because they have something they feel ashamed of, and are trying to pass the shame off onto other people. I feel sorry for nasty people – they obviously aren’t happy. Happy people don’t go around spewing hate onto others. Turn the other cheek, ignore them and get on with your own life. It’s the best revenge.

25 Comments

  1. Anthony Girgenti
    May 27, 2019 / 6:07 pm

    Another great blog with terrific insight. Wishing you all the best in the year ahead and can’t wait for that little one to arrive for two loving parents

  2. Jodie
    May 27, 2019 / 6:10 pm

    Inspiring as always Rosie!!! Love you xx

  3. Kimi
    May 27, 2019 / 6:12 pm

    Wonderful post Rosie. As I ‘ve gotten older I have become more and more unashamed to be my authentic self. I no longer care…as much…how people see me. I also live minimalistically and try to be there for others. I feel learning to be our true selves is the real goal in life. Happy early birthday.

  4. georgie :)
    May 27, 2019 / 6:13 pm

    rosie you’re glowing! you’ve achieved so much and you should be so proud of yourself! your desire to improve and better yourself further is inspirational. love you!!!

  5. irene
    May 27, 2019 / 6:14 pm

    This is lovely

  6. Sally Cannell
    May 27, 2019 / 6:27 pm

    Another good blog Rosie, I really see how you have your life in a good balance, with work, friends, goals and love. I have personally lost many of my years, through alcohol, I haven’t got a clue about half the things of done and now I’m in my forties and illness has made me a very different person.
    I no longer give a fuck about much of anything, except my family, its so important to savour every moment, good or bad.. These are all lessons we must endare to.
    I almost feel proud of you and Rose even though I don’t know you, but with what you have achieved, and I wish you luck in the future.. Oh and happy birthday, hope you have a great day.
    Thanks, Sally.

  7. Denise Raygoza
    May 27, 2019 / 6:30 pm

    Yeah I can definitely tell that you both put your absolute all in your work. It’s nice to see that it has paid off. Living life to the fullest is the only thing that matters. Honestly, the “fuck it” moments are always the best moments. I just hope you and Rose are always stay humble as your years pass together.

    Very Respectfully,
    Denise

    • Leticia
      May 28, 2019 / 1:49 am

      Your blog has always been full of your strong and positive spirit. I like your attitude towards life.
      As we grow older, family and friends become more and more important, and any thoughts of other insignificant people become less and less important to us. I think that’s growth.

  8. Lori
    May 27, 2019 / 6:34 pm

    Great post as always Rosie! Well said! As I am now 31 years old I have come to the conclusion with a lot of things for myself. Loving myself, fighting mental illness and not to care what others think. The list goes on. Keep up with your positivity and I wish you the best and have a great birthday Thursday.

  9. nelly
    May 27, 2019 / 6:39 pm

    love this so much rosie!!! you’re so inspiring! i’m still only young lol so it’s helpful to look at how you’ve overcome things i might face soon. love all your blog posts xx

  10. Kathleen
    May 27, 2019 / 6:44 pm

    Inspiring to read,helps me a lot to read,happy birthday for Thursday,love u and rose xxx

  11. Vivian Cooper
    May 27, 2019 / 6:58 pm

    Your ‘Fuck the Haters’ section rang bells with me. It’s so important to remember to ‘stick to your own business’. Concentrating on our own lives, family, whatever is important to us, is far more valuable and progressive than sticking your oar into somebody else’s life, or judging them, or letting their shame rub off on you. Easier said than done sometimes though!

    Another thought provoking post Rosie. Thank you.

  12. May 27, 2019 / 7:04 pm

    Great blog post Rosie ! I totally agree with you. I will be 40 in 3 years … looking at what I have achieved, I see things that I am extremely proud of. Tony Robbins once said, “There is no such thing as failure. There are only results.” It’s time to stop beating yourself up and start realizing that everything you do is a success or a learning experience.
    A few years ago if I did not agree with somebody, it would be a huge fight. Today I move aside, analyze whether it is worth continuing and in most cases I give up because it is a waste of time and energy. Today I am at the stage of plans but I do it differently than 10 years ago. greater dose of realism 🙂 what I am able to sacrifice for others has also changed. Today I am more focused on being and not on having something. my return to reading books instead of surfing the internet changed a lot. Side effect of Overshare so thank you for writing it. This book has overturned my life upside down in a positive way.

  13. May 27, 2019 / 7:26 pm

    Very well said! I’m definitely going to be taking notes to make the most of the last 4.5 years of my 30s. I certainly haven’t made the most of the first five years of my 30s, or the last 10 years of my 20s.

  14. Clare
    May 27, 2019 / 8:17 pm

    Life is too short Rosie. An operation saved my life and gas totally changed my outlook. I should be dead and a switch turn on. Love the people you have in your life. My wife and i are surrounded by people who are part of our lives. Who “bring something to the party”. Love the people you have and love the life you lead Another brilliant blog xx

  15. Ana Paula Soares
    May 27, 2019 / 8:45 pm

    Reading this was very comforting, I’m doing 21 this summer and I’m mostly freaking out about time and everything related to it. Seeing your insight about this brings some kind of peace of mind about time and how everything eventually falls in place. Thank youu

  16. Marie
    May 27, 2019 / 9:16 pm

    This is so inspiring! I agree with Clare, I really should read this again and take notes. I’ve been following you since the beginning and it’s been so fun to watch your growth and what you’ve achieved during your twenties. As a bisexual who just turned 21 today, i can safely say you’re my biggest role model. I can’t wait to follow you and see what happens next. Happy early birthday<3

  17. Jenny
    May 27, 2019 / 11:09 pm

    Love this blog post. My new life motto is to give less shits about what other people think about me and live my life to the fullest possible.
    A friend of mine passed away quite suddenly from leukaemia last week and its filled me with this whole new perspective on what I want to achieve in my life – I’m going to stop thinking of my goals as far off distant things and start attacking life and what I want to get out of it now! After all, you really never know how much time you’re going to have.
    Thanks for being so motivational – I really like how you’re always self-reflecting and self-aware, its something I am hoping to get better at.

  18. Aliesha
    May 28, 2019 / 12:59 am

    Just readings these makes me feel better, motivating me to do something new. I always feel better knowing you and other people go through the same shit and insecurities that I do. It makes me realise to live life to the fullest and fuck anyone who tries to put you down in any type of way! It reminds me to always seek positives and don’t constantly refer back to the negatives that comes with life. To be happy, to love yourself and to be proud on the things you have achieved. Thank you Rosie.

  19. Lynn
    May 28, 2019 / 1:15 am

    Insightful and honest. Good stuff.

  20. Leticia
    May 28, 2019 / 1:44 am

    Your blog has always been full of your strong and positive spirit. I like your attitude towards life.
    As we grow older, family and friends become more and more important, and any thoughts of other insignificant people become less and less important to us. I think that’s growth.

  21. Septimber
    May 28, 2019 / 4:12 am

    It goes by so fast. I hardly remember my 20’s but I make it a point to remember my 30’s, I’m still in school and I’m committed to following my dreams. In your 30’s you don’t care anymore what people think of you and you realize in your 30’s that relationships are fleeting people will come and go but it’s important to stay true to your self always. I love reading your blogs. I find you so interesting.

  22. Hani
    May 28, 2019 / 11:54 am

    First time here! Love your posting Rose

  23. Gail. Kearney
    May 29, 2019 / 9:11 pm

    What a wonderful person you are,so thoughtful to other people you and rose are meant for each other . First watched a video of rose tik tok then you both together growing closer,from the beginning always new you both were going to achieve something great, and you both deserve it.

    Have a great hol in France, I watch everything you put out,and laugh so much both very gifted. I am old and straight have seven grandkids. But you girls keep me going.

    From new zealand

  24. Diane Dimick
    June 6, 2019 / 1:50 pm

    I have been a faithful viewer since you and Rose started making You Tube videos. This is my first visit to your blog, and I am so impressed with your insight, and passion for life. My wife is 75 and I am 63 not your typical demographic; we have been together over 35 years. We raised a daughter that we are proud of, purchased and sold 3 homes, cared and loved 3 dogs, faced breast cancer the list goes on.
    We are retired and often view your videos while drinking tea, we turn towards each other and laugh. Often we relate to your situations or life events, “been there, done that!” You should know that your content/art is something we love and look forward to. May your love for each other grow stronger through the years. When you are old and retired make yourself some tea and hopefully you will be able to laugh as you remark “been there done that”.
    Two old lesbians

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